Does anyone still not believe this?
From the time I was a little girl I knew the worst thing I could do for the planet was have children, I always just sensed it. When I was 18 I asked my gyne tie my tubes. She laughed it off. Each year I went to a different gyne & asked the same question, and each time their responses started me doubting my own sanity. At age 22 the accident happened. I always knew I could never have an abortion or give my child up for adoption. Though I accepted my responsibility, I deplored my ob/gyne to now tie my tubes after childbirth. He said the same thing I heard the others say, the rule is you have to be 30 years old, have at least 3 kids, & have the permission of your husband. “I’m not married.” “Well then your boyfriend.” “You mean that abusive man I made the mistake of getting pregnant with who is still pissed that I’m not having an abortion & wants nothing to do with my child?”
I begged and cried and pleaded until finally he said what he could to get me to leave his office, “If you go to a psychiatrist and get them to document that you are making a sane decision, I will refer you for a tubal ligation.” Unfortunately by the time the psychiatrist could schedule me for 3 visits to validate my sanity my due date would be long past. I went anyway. Less than a month after giving birth I was opened up again to finally have my tubes tied.
Shift the earth destroying ethos. Before people come to you with ‘good news’ of pregnancy, thank them for not breeding.